Is Your Man Afraid of Your Weight Loss?

When you’re trying to lose weight, it can be all about you, right? It’s easy to forget that a change in lifestyle can effect the other people in your life pretty significantly- especially your partner. Could it be possible? Is your man afraid of your weight loss?
Listen to what he's saying: 

"Honey, I know I was on board with your grand plan to lose some weight and get healthy, but if I seem less than supportive lately, it’s because I don’t know what’s behind this latest obsession. All this talk about 'inflammatory this' and 'processed that.' Not to mention a refrigerator full of so many vegetables it looks like a rain forest in there.

And of course the constant updates about your FuelBand goal. I’m pretty sure you spend more time looking at your FuelBand than you do me.

And I’ve noticed your new love affair with the mirror, the new clothes and this increased focus on your appearance. And then there’s this new-found energy and positive attitude that makes the rest of us want to rip our face off whenever you talk about how good you feel!

Frankly, I’m nervous with all these changes. Why are you making these changes now?

You see, us men don’t always adapt well to change, even when it’s positive. I might tell you I’m proud of the skinnier new you, but I’m also waiting for these changes to swing around and bite me in the ass.

Maybe I’m worried that you’ll lose so much weight you’ll eventually ask yourself why you are married to pudgy ole’ me. Maybe I miss those bags of BBQ potato chips that you used to stock in the pantry.

Maybe I’m worried that I will no longer be able to use your weight as an excuse for why we are not intimate with each other anymore. Maybe I’m worried that if you become healthy and strong and feel good about yourself, you won’t need me anymore.

Or, maybe, secretly, I’m worried that you’re doing all this for someone else.

But I don’t want to tell you these fears, so instead I’ll complain about the lack of decent snacks, or all the time you are spending away from me and the kids, or all the money you are spending on  organic food, a gym membership and workout gear.

I’ll call you vain. Selfish. Obsessed. Or even worse, I’ll be supportive to your face while I’m secretly counting the days until you tap out and go back to how it was.

Because I know if you’re feeling fat, your self-esteem will be low. And if your self-esteem is low, I can call the shots and go back to doing whatever I want.

So, if my fears I stated earlier are not true, give me some reassurance. 

Make sure the rest of us are still getting some of your time and attention. Don’t make it all about you. And…it wouldn’t hurt to throw a few BBQ potato chips on my plate from time to time." 

Wow! Here we are thinking that our partner will be nothing but OVER THE MOON when we get slim. But, like anyone else they have their own insecurities, worries, and fears. So, losing weight isn’t all about you. It’s also VERY much about your partner - an important thing to keep in mind as you start this journey!